Sunday, August 12, 2007

Pinning People Down in Little Boxes

I love analyzing people with the best of them using the MBTI, the Enneagram, and just about any other personality test available, but why why do people insist on analyzing people to death according to type? I mean do we really all fit into a "type". These "types" don't account changes in life periodically, temporarily or possibly from life events. I pride myself in being a mix of lots of characteristics because I have worked hard on balance. Balance is key. I like to think of myself as a Mixed Type. I don't have a type. I feel as soon as somebody places me in a box, I want to wiggle out and stretch my arms and say "I'm free."

I'm free to be what I want. Maybe today I am an INTP; tomorrow I'll be an ENFP. Who knows. No matter what type I am, and like I said, I do enjoy trying to understand people better using these tests, I still feel that understanding where I am coming from in a larger brushstroke is more important. People are more complicated than a series of adjectives used to describe their behavior and then again, how many of us are truly objective when thinking about ourselves. Aren't these "types" subject to what people may want to think they are--but in reality could be the exact opposite. Of course a certain amount of maturity and intelligence is needed in order take these kinds of tests, but the bottom line is this: Accept people for who they are; observe people in the "now" to make predictions for the "then", put yourself in their shoes for a while and "see" where they are coming from. Don't paint people in broad brushstrokes then complain when you can't understand them. We are all composed series of reflections of light.